WHAT DOES MY MAD HEART REALLY WANT?
by Allwin Bright
I tutor a neighboring kid, ten-year old and a fourth class student. He comes to the tuition every morning as early as 6:00 a.m. Its been a month since I’ve started tutoring him. I’ve learned a lot about him in this one month. He finds it hard to sit still and pay attention, he is always moving, often lost in day dreams, struggles with numbers and yet says that Mathematics is his favorite subject. Having said all this I must also say that he is a keen learner. He loves coming to the tuition. He wants me to teach Math and English at school. 🙂
I too had a short attention span as a kid. As matter of matter of fact it is still the same. I struggled with numbers and you guessed it right Mathematics was/is my favorite subject. Often it feels like I am seeing my 10-year-old self through him. Sometimes this thought scares me. What if he ends up being like me in future too?
FLASHBACK
I had dreams of becoming an airplane pilot as kid. (Tales Spin was my favorite cartoon series) Everyone has one such big dream as a kid. Slowly as I got older I realized that becoming a pilot was never my thing. With time my ambitions changed. I wanted to be everything that amused me. From a Traffic police to the ATM security guard, from a Radio Jockey to a Journalist, from a Cricketer to a Musician from Director of a movie to a Writer and so on.
But, until I finished school I never took any of these ambitions seriously. To me school was just about studies, practical exams, assignments, projects, exams and ultimately marks, nothing more than that. Its was my college which transformed me into a completely different person. But, the problem was even in college I did not know what I wanted to be in life. I followed the herd. I attended a campus interview and fortunately or unfortunately I got selected. It came as big sigh of relief at that point of time. I thought this was it. A good job in a reputed company with a good salary. A young lad who had just passed out of college couldn’t have asked for anything more. But, it was not to be.
Of course I enjoyed working in a corporate but, I struggled too. I quit when I found that it was too much for me to handle. More than anything else it was the feeling that I did not belong there forced me to take such a decision. I did an MBA without having the faintest of idea what it was all about? Yet another campus interview, yet another round of interviews (Aptitude Test, Group discussion, HR interview, Personal interview…. PHHHEW) I get through and I get selected. I have a job now. Am I happy with that?
Cut back to the present-day
Have a glimpse of how my day goes by:
After tutoring I have a nap. Sleep comes easily to me. Its one of those things I am blessed with. Strangely enough I have good dreams during this nap.
In the middle of a dream I wake up hearing mom scolding and complaining. After waking up I take my own time to brush my teeth, have a shower and get dressed up for office. I have my breakfast as if I have all the time in this world. I always make it point not to skip my breakfasts no matter how late it gets. I leave to office bidding good-bye to Mom.
I reach office between 11:00 a.m. to 12:00 noon. However my office hours are from 10 to 7. But, no one really cares whether I come early or late. As a matter of fact I don’t think I’ll be questioned even if I come to office even after 12.
Now, What exactly do I do in office?
For most of the day I am lost in a day-dream
And when I am not day dreaming:
I read blogs or I try writing quite irrelevant posts such as this.
A lot of my friends envy me. “Koduthu vacha maharaasan da nee…” One of my colleague remarks in Tamil as he passes by my cubicle. (which roughly translates in English as: “You are an extremely lucky person”). Really Am I?
In a sense yes I am. I hardly have any work here. It gives me the freedom and ample amount of time to do what I love doing – reading and writing.
But there are a number of things that I hate about my job. I hate the monotony of my work. I hate being stagnant. I hate being insignificant. I hate to be coming to office everyday just for the sake of it.
I spend a hell a lot of time contemplating. What should I do? May be I should quit this job and choose a profession I am really passionate about. But, the problem I still do not know what I want to be in life. I try listening to my heart. It sometimes says teaching, sometimes writing, sometimes music, sometimes photography, sometimes film making and so on. It’s not easy to listen to your heart. Is it?
May be I should just hang in there. My life is not all that bad. I have a job. I get a decent salary. I really enjoy reading and writing. My present is as stable as it should be. Its only the thought of the future that worries me. May be I should just keep exploring myself and someday I’ll eventually find out what my mad heart really wants.
I keep interrogating myself regarding the same thing…
I hope you get your answers and so do I…
In fact let God help all those who ever come up with this dilemma.
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What! You too? I thought I was the only one. 🙂 🙂
God help us all.
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Same here with me. I still don’t know what I want to do in life. And reading your post made me realise that I am not the only one. We’ll find our way someday…let’s hope for the best. 🙂
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Thanks, Mona. Glad to know that I’m not the only one!
We’ll all find our way through. 🙂
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Keep looking for the answers bro, and do keep asking yourself questions. Time has a lot action in its store for everyone 🙂
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Thank you Mohit
Seeking answers and asking questions – Its a never ending process. I’ll be doing it throughout my life. 🙂
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We all feel that way sometime in our lives. I remember 1 year through my med school I was sure I didn’t belong here 😦 anyways it passed and I’m quite content with what I’m doing. Still I know there are times you wish you were something else..something out of our wildest dreams…
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I’m glad for you that the painful feeling of not belonging to passed.
Perhaps it is human to wish that you were somebody else.
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A 10 yr old coming to your house for tuition, at 6 in the morning! Isn’t that a bit hard on the little guy?
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Yes it is. But trust me he loves coming to the tuition and I love teaching him. 🙂
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🙂
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“The future was created to rob the present of it’s happiness”. keep exploring 🙂 . You’ll find what your heart truly desires.
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Ha Ha… That was a nice quote Subh. 🙂
I am exploring. May your words soon come true!
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sometimes the whole life moves on and we are not able to know what we want! But seriously ! Its our true craving to know that makes our come closer to our real dreams,yet the truth is when we achieve those dreams we want something else to cling on! so the process of wanting,wishing and dreaming continues..and without this we are actually lost…so it is the happiness of living in the present in the very second,very minute to breath the real essence which we really need and want!
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Thank you Soumya
You are one amazing person. 🙂 I can’t thank you enough. You always come up with a feel good comment. No matter what. 🙂
Thank you for enlightening me. I’ll live in the present and stay happy happy. 🙂 🙂
And I am sorry. I haven’t been reading your blog for very long. I don’t have any excuses. Its just that I’ve been plain lazy. 😦 But I promise I’ll read all your posts from where I left. 🙂
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🙂 You will need enough time then! for there is a post a day! 😉 I think you wnt have any time left to think about anything else then. 😀
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Glad to see a post from you. Loved this one, too. 🙂
You are fortunate in many ways. Don’t forget that. While you may not love your current job, it’s a job—and that’s something. It’s also nice that, in your job, you have time to do things you love. It’s good to not be too stressed out all of the time and to have time to explore what you really *do* love to do.
Your passion will come to you. Personally, I think you’re a GREAT writer.
(Oh, and I loved Tales Spin as a kid, too!)
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Believe me Jessica I know that I am very fortunate to have this kind of a job. There’s no doubt about that. But, every now and then the thought of staying stagnant at work bugs me. 😦
May be I am like the school kid who hates going to school and desperately waits for the vacations to begin. But during the vacations he gets really bored that he just cannot wait to get back to school.
And I do not know how to thank you for calling me a GREAT writer. *BASKING IN GLORY* I won’t be able to sleep tonight now! 🙂
You too loved Tales Spin! Glad to know that. 🙂
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Dear friend, don’t settle for a single thing in life. You can contribute to the society and add value to your life as well as to others’ life in different way at the same time.
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Advice taken and Thank you Ramu. 🙂
I am so glad you are back and blogging.
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you are never going to find out what exactly you want. i have been looking for it too.never found.never will.
okay.being grumpy.it’s been a bad day.
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Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment here. Sorry that you had a bad day.
Here is a quote for you. Its from the movie Shawshank Redemption.
“Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies.”
So cling on to hope. Keep asking yourself the question.Someday you’ll find an answer. 🙂
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